Monday, 8 September 2014

Messages on my children's hearts

Messages on my children's hearts
8 September 2014

One of my dearest wishes, is that I could write messages on my children’s hearts.  Messages that would stay with them forever.  And that would never be erased by the world, people and life.  That won’t be diminished over time.  And that no matter what life throws at them, will carry them through.  And anchor them.  Keep them grounded.

I believe that as a mom, I am the primary influence in my children’s lives.  At least during their foundation years.  And hopefully the roots I laid down during their formative years, will hold them steady in the years to come. 

Quite, obviously their dad is equally important too.

But children have an incredibly special bond with their moms.  Hundreds of lap hours, that you spend just holding them, cuddling them, feeding, bathing, reading stories, talking and chatting.

And all of that time, gives you an incredible opportunity to make indelible footprints on their hearts.  Affirmations of your belief in them.  Their potential in life.  Encouraging them in all that they do.  And enveloping them in love.

Life can be very hard.  People can tell you that you’re stupid.  Kids can be cruel.  Teachers can be mean.  You will have many failures.  Times when you let yourself and those around you down.  Disappointments in yourself and others.  Adversity.  Hardships. 

But if your mom did a good job, and she wrote a special message on your heart, you will overcome it all.

You will know that you deserve better.  That you ARE a good person.  That you deserve happiness and love.  You will believe in yourself and have faith in your abilities.

My mom, wrote me a goodie.  And it’s carried me.

And so I thought of my own three kids, and what my messages to them would be.  Would they all be different?  Or all the same? 

Luke, Amber and Cole – You are worthy.  I believe in you.  You are destined for greatness.  You will achieve success.  You will find love.  You will be fulfilled.  You are a good person.  You have inner beauty.  Despite what life throws at you, you will rise.  Look deeper than face value, at life and at people.  You listen and hear what others say.  Stay pure of heart and true to yourself.  You are honourable.  Hold your head up high.  Be proud of who you are – I am.  You are kind.  Follow your own path.  Be yourself.  Forgive others and yourself.  You deserve only the best.  I will always accept you.  Stumbles along the way, will only make you stronger.  Don’t lose faith in yourself.  You are genuine, sincere and real.  Enjoy the simple things, and appreciate beauty – the sunset, a warm breeze, sand between your toes.  Giving is a greater gift, than receiving one.  Don’t be too guarded.  To fly, you have to take risks.  If you fall, simply get up again and dust yourself off.  Make memories.  Value true friendship and family.  Believe in the goodness of others.  Think happy thoughts.  Love unconditionally.  You are deserving of goodness.  Stand up for those that can’t stand up for themselves.  Don’t give up easily.  Look forward.  Let go of past hurts.  Laugh often.  Enjoy your journey.  Take your time.  You are loyal and faithful.  You are positive.  You seek enlightenment.  You are non-judgemental.  You are open minded.  You are malleable and able to compromise, without giving up your principles.  You can admit when you are wrong.  You are caring.  You are driven.  You are passionate about life and those you love. 

Above all else, you are deserving and worthy of happiness and love.  Find it – it is all around you, beckoning you closer.  This is my wish for you.

Lots of love,


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  1. This is so beautiful Helene - what lucky children you have!! It is so easy to feel bad about yourself when life is hard and you struggle , and knowing that you are loved and have a support team - like the Lombard family is and has - it is a precious gift. I have always marvelled how Ouma Leen has a way of making all of us feel special - all her children, their spouses, all her grandchildren, great grandchildren - every last member. She is the Grand Mom of us all! This is a very special blog - thank you!

  2. This is a really moving blog post, Helene. Makes us realise again, the capacity we have to shape our children's concept of themselves and their self worth. Your children are exceptionally lucky to have you, as we were, I agree, exceptionally lucky to have Ouma Helene.

  3. Your Mom-Gran-Helene is phenomenal. I'm a great fan.
    (Huibrecht 12 Sept. 2014)