I find myself wearing a mask
31 October 2012
Halloween is upon us and
alongside it, all of the hoopla it entails.
Shops are adorned with witch’s hats, pitchforks, devil horns, hollowed
out pumpkins and many more similar things.
And though Halloween is not celebrated in South Africa on a large scale similar
to those we see overseas, I believe the trend is gaining ground. With more Halloween dress up costumes and
accessories available, awareness is created.
In certain neighbourhoods kids even go trick or treating. I do however think it is quite uncommon to
knock on virtual stranger’s doors. And that
it is usually done within the safety of a security village or gated community. Even warning neighbours in advance, of intentions to call upon them, urging them to stock up on sweets.
And so, with all of the Halloween
goodies abounding, my thoughts drifted to dress-ups and the outfits that one
sees on TV and on the Internet. Kids donning
elaborate and fun costumes. If memory
serves, my little niece in England, donned a punk-rock-gothic-princess-chick
theme last year. And seeing the pics of
others on Facebook, masks are big. Which
in turn made me think about masks and how I wear one every single day of my
life. Not something exotic and
adventurous like a Batman mask or a Supergirl mask. Perhaps something a bit more mundane. Yet, essential to my “superpowers” none the
less. Because I simply cannot face my
day and the world in general without…..
Eyeliner. No, don’t laugh. I’m being one hundred percent serious here. My eyeliner is the mask behind which I hide. Without it I feel naked and vulnerable. But with a single swipe of a line of black
kohl, I feel ready and able to take on the world. It is amazing how much confidence that one
little act instils in me. It can hide a
multitude of flaws, detracting attention away from other less stellar
areas. It boosts my ego, makes me walk
taller, feel more intelligent and act more confidently. It truly is a miracle cure.
Another arsenal in my weaponry is
my pair of spectacles – which definitely adds intelligence. Not only does it improve my vision, but also
my hearing. Because without wearing my
glasses, my hearing takes a knock. One is
unaware how much you use sight in your verbal and listening skills. Because without the benefit of sight, one is
unable to correctly interpret many things that are spoken. You lose out on body language, hand gestures
and facial expression.
I think many of us wear a “mask”. Using things that we deem essential. We use them to cover up and to add a layer to
our skin. They give us confidence and
act as our emotional crutch – in a healthy way of course. A physical manifestation of an emotional need. And I don’t think we ever join the dots and
see it for what it is. For my Grantie it’s
his sunglasses and a cap in summer. For Luke
it’s his cell phone always attached to his hand. For some it’s a cigarette. For other’s it’s a drink. Perhaps a “security blanket” so to
speak. As well as a “comfort toy” if you
like. Something you simply can’t do
without. That you acutely miss and look
for if separated from it.
I think there’s nothing wrong
with this. If a little girl’s earrings
give her the boost that she needs, that’s fantastic. If a little boy always has a little car,
rugby ball or superhero toy in his hand, that’s also okay. Ladies have handbags and men cling on to car
keys. Each to their own is all that I say.
And while some may wear physical “masks”
in some form or another, others have other coping mechanisms of a different type in place. Perhaps an acerbic tongue and razor sharp
comments. Loads of boisterous
confidence. The telling of jokes, and an
escape in humour. Bouts of self-pity. Even nastiness and being selfish and horrible
to others can be a mask. Maybe deflecting
attention away from the true crux of the matter. A smoke screen of sorts.
For me, I’m happy with my
eyeliner. It symbolises feeling ready
and confident to face the world. It’s
harmless and cheap – a winner deal. And though
a simple eyeliner may seem so small and silly to others, to me it is huge. I love you Charlie black eyeliner – with all
of my heart. And I will never cheat on you
with Revlon, Rimmel or any other makes. You
make my world work. And I thank you for that.
Love it Helene... :))))))))))))) ! Frenchie
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